The Two Sides of Love Trust in the Lord, with all your heart. Two Sides is a global initiative with members from the graphic communication supply chain and we aim to promote the sustainability of Print and Paper. Use the link below to share a full-text version of this article with your friends and colleagues.Please check your email for instructions on resetting your password. But first, you need to know how much I love you and how proud I am of you.”.Charles had seen the words “I love you” written on birthday and Christmas cards in his father’s handwriting, but this was the first time he had heard them from his father’s lips.
Breaking Hearts: The Two Sides of Unrequited Love by Roy F. Baumeister in PDF, EPUB, MOBI download e-book. And that night in the restaurant, we can just imagine that angels stood all around and cheered as the first hole in an emotional wall between a father and son was blown open.It had been a moving night and an important one for both of them. Then I’d like for us to talk about it, and I want to ask your forgiveness for each thing you can think of.

Darrell could tell early on that Charles was much more sensitive than Larry. “We may be here all night,” he continued, “and I’m ready for that. It wasn’t enough that they go hunting together. For each temperament type, circle the positive traits Yet as tough as he fancied himself, one question the speaker asked pierced through to his heart: “When was the last time you put your arms around your son and told him face to face that you love him?”.Darrell couldn’t think of a “last time.” In fact, he couldn’t think of a first time.He listened as the speaker told him that genuine love has two sides, not just one. And there were the many harsh comments his father had made to motivate him but that had actually been discouraging and hurtful.As he recounted to his father each experience, large or small, Charles could see a genuine softness and sorrow in his dad’s eyes.

He shook his head as if to clear away his last-minute doubts about this meeting. In a heartbeat he could call down a mistake Charles made, but words of encouragement came up only on a holiday or birthday—if then.At that men’s retreat, Darrell learned that as important as a mother’s love is, children need more.
Now I realize I’ve spent very little time listening to who you really want to become.“Feel free to share with me anything I’ve done that’s hurt you, and all I’m going to do is listen.

There were the seasons he spent becoming an outstanding football player to please his father, when all the time he would rather have been playing soccer.There was the subtle resentment he had always felt that no matter how hard he tried, he could never quite live up to his older brother’s accomplishments. In fact, it wasn’t like him to talk about.“Son, I’d like to ask you to do something. Though Darrell loved Charles deeply, he also knew that of his two boys, Charles was the most different from him.With his older son, Larry, communication was never a struggle. With tears in their eyes, those two strong men stood there holding each other, oblivious to the stares.Please note: Our premium story access has been discontinued.Copyright 2020, Chicken Soup for the Soul, LLC. In order to protect the rights of the copyright holder, no portion of this publication may be reproduced without prior written consent. Darrell stood outside the local pizza parlor, hesitating before he opened the door. Like many men, he had become an expert on its hard side. It’s been hitting me hard that this is your last summer at home. Never rely on what you think you know. love? But as they stood up, Charles did something that shocked his father.Several people looked up from tables nearby as a big, strapping football player reached out and gave his equally strong father a warm bear hug for the first time in years. Finally, with a sigh, he forced aside his fear, pushed open the door, and walked into his son’s favorite restaurant.He dreaded this meeting so much that it took all his emotional strength just to walk inside instead of turning away.

I can see now that I was always pretty hard on you. 5. You’ve got enough ahead of you over the next four years in college without that.”,“I realize there’s been a lot of water under the bridge— a lot of wasted years.” Taking off his glasses and wiping tears from his eyes, he sighed, then looked straight at Charles. Volume 3 , Issue 2 October 1986 And Larry had always responded well to—even thrived on—that kind of treatment.But Charles was a different case. What’s more, he heard words of remorse and healing for even the smallest thing that had left a rough edge on a memory.Nearly three hours later, the fruitful conversation finally came to an end. Now that Dad had added softness to his love, Charles didn’t know what to say.“Dad,” he stammered, “don’t worry about the past. They acted and thought so much alike that they didn’t need to talk much. Love Paper About us The environment is a key focus for our business, we are pleased to join Two Sides and tell the great sustainable story of paper and print.

Prov. And although Darrell had turned 51 that same month, he had none of the middle-age spread that most men his age carry. Charles wanted to talk while they were on the trip—even while they were hunting!Only recently had Darrell realized that the sole reason he and Charles were getting along at the moment was that his son had quit talking to him—altogether! All rights reserved.